When We Contemplate Death

We often move through life as though death were an abstract concept, something that happens to others, far away, in some distant future. But when death enters our lives — through loss, illness, or the simple passing of time — it becomes intensely real, reshaping the landscape of our inner world.

Death is not simply an end. It is a mirror, reflecting back the urgency and preciousness of each moment we are given. It asks us, sometimes relentlessly: How do I want to live? What truly matters to me? Whom do I wish to love more deeply?

In my work, I have found that facing the reality of mortality can awaken us to life in a way that no other experience can. When we stop turning away from death, we begin to turn more fully toward life — toward authentic connection, honest self-examination, and a greater capacity to hold both joy and sorrow.

This does not mean making peace with death once and for all. Rather, it means entering into an ongoing dialogue with it — allowing it to guide us back to what is essential.

There is a saying in the Talmud: "Repent one day before your death." Of course, no one knows the day of their death — and that is precisely the point. We are called to live each day as if it were both our first and our last, with openness, gratitude, and the courage to be true to ourselves.

May we allow death to be our teacher — not a source of paralyzing fear, but a gentle, persistent reminder to live with intention and love.

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"People forget that this world is a place of temporary significance at best, where a soul assumes a bodily form to perform a mission and achieve a needed tikkun.  But, if they'd remember that the life and health of the soul is our prime concern -- and not the body -- then their question would fall by the wayside."  Rabbi Arush

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"The body serves as a garment to the soul.  Once the period of integrated existence ends, the soul divests itself of its material dress, and dons other clothing.  Just as the soul is given an earthly garment, so will it be given a garment of sublime lustre in the other world (Zohar, Noach). This vestment of 'sublime lustre' is given to him in accordance with what he prepared for himself in this world, occupying himself with cloaking himself in a Mitzvah and clothing himself in the garment of a Mitzvah.  As for the person who did not earn the merit in this world, to acquire the garment of Mitzvah, he will come to that world [naked] (Zohar, Shelach)."  Gaon

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"The Zohar (Vayechi) has declared: 'The righteous have reason to rejoice on the day of their departing...' And it states (Ibid. Vayera): 'Death is the suffering of the body and the rejoicing of the soul,' for the soul of the saintly longs for the time when it will depart from this vain world and enjoy the world of bliss.  At the time of parting the soul has joy.  Hence the anniversary of the death of a Tzaddik is called Hilula (festivity)."  Gaon

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"The righteous (Tzaddikim) experience joy on the day of their departing.  Death is joy both for the good and the wicked.  For the good, it marks leaving the corridor behind and entering the palace - the shedding of the physical, and the donning of the spiritual clothing.  For the wicked it marks the rescue from descending further into the inferno, from which he cannot be extricated.  If not for death, the evildoer would never stop dong his evil."   This is stated in the Zohar (Vayechi)

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"When a person has prepared himself for coming to life again - death as such is merely a change of clothing.  So the Zohar states: 'Just as He provides the soul with garments to wear in this world, so will He provide it with a garment of supernal light to wear in that world.' (Noach).  This garment consists of all the deeds the person has performed day by day, as is written 'advanced in days.' (Ibid. Vayechi).  Goan

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"Now in the World to Come, all man's deeds and actions are made to pass before him as if he were viewing a film of his life.  Happy is he who has produced a satisfying film.  Happy is he whose pictures are beautiful, his face shines with joy."  (Shabbos desecration. - N.A.)

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"Just as the life of the embryo merely constitutes the transition to a broader and more exciting life, - so, to an even greater extent, is life on Earth merely the prelude to a more fascinating, glorious life, which man, confined within his puny body and with limited perception, is incapable of conceiving."  

Human existence - as man passes through this world from birth to death - is either all or nothing.  Either life constitutes a passage to nothing, without any substance at all, or else it endures for eternity - retaining all its original good and happiness.  Either one's days are a bridge to death or a bridge to life.  

For the person, however, to whom life is a transition to an enduring future, it constitutes the corridor leading to the palace, the "inn" in which he prepares himself for his appearance in the palace.  Hence this life has great meaning for him, and similarly his sufferings.  For if death is a cessation, then life has no goal; but if life does possess a goal, then death is no cessation.  

For the first type of individual, then, life has no real substance, while for the seocnd, death has none.  This is what the Rabbis of the Talmud asserted: "The wicked, while still alive, are considered dead; the righteous, even when dead, are considered to be alive." (Berochos 18a)  The second lives for his soul, which endures, and so his life has no end".    Gaon